Warning:  I am writing this after 10 pm at night.  I am a morning person.  The following may come across wrong but I will try to communicate effectively what I am feeling at the moment.  AND if you are a boy, this may be too much for you. HAHAHA

Female Pornography.  What does that mean? Nude photos?  For this reading, female pornography will be defined as media that emotionally captures the attention of a woman.  Women are different from men.  We are not turned on the same way. (Uh, Rhonda, I am not sure I want a sex talk from you…on your blog…that’s weird).  I am not giving you a sex talk.  I am talking about women and our issues.

I just got done watching the movie “Wives and Daughters”.  I LOVED IT!!!!  With a capital “L”.  It ended like all good movies should.  Where the girl who is not all that (when it comes to looks and money) gets the guy who is all that when he comes to his senses and sees her true beauty that not everyone can see but because he is amazing and intelligent and hard-working and amazing, he falls in love with her in the end and they get married and move to Africa.

This generation of women in America is being raised on Soap Operas, Novels, Chick Flicks, Friends, Sex in the City, Desperate Housewives, Project Runway, and Pride and Prejudice (and I haven’t said anything about music!).

I wasted three years of my life (6th, 7th, 8th grade) being mentored by Stefano, Vivian, Kristen, Sami, Bo, Billy, Roman, Hope, Peter, Lucas, etc.  And if you don’t know those names, it’s because you weren’t addicted to Days of Our Lives (“Like sands through the hour-glass, so are the days of our lives”).  God, in His mercy, started bringing my dad home at 3pm in the afternoon, thus upsetting my addiction and changing my life.

We are mentoring our girls with a TV filled with perverse, disgusting, cheating, lying, manipulating, angry characters who are imaginary!  And it’s porn.  I don’t know how they do it but it is so addicting.  You seriously can’t stop watching.

I love the movie “You’ve Got Mail”.  I have seen that movie more than any other movie on the planet.  It’s about a single lady in New York who owns a book store and there’s a great sound track in it and she ends up in love with Tom Hanks.  She resists him at first, can’t stand him…But he is not what she assumes he is…And they live happily ever after.

I threw away that movie finally.  Two years ago.  I couldn’t take it.  I couldn’t take the emotional draw…I don’t know how to describe it.  I LOVED THAT MOVIE.  I loved it and yet I was wasting my life in a place that wasn’t bad necessarily, but still waste.  It’s girly and normal to love those movies-to think about love…It’s normal to want marriage and love and a man and a family.  To love someone.  To have someone love you back.

And yet there is a line.  There is a fine line between filling your mind with things that are not yet reality and wishing you were there and putting yourself in their place and feeling what they are feeling and loving love AND trusting God for His best, not being distracted by what is not yet to be, not letting your feelings, and your heart, and your mind run away.

The problem with Female Porn:  It’s a substitution.  It’s not real love.  It’s you wanting to be someone else, feeling what someone else feels, giving your lonely heart a break.  It detours your brain.  It detours your heart.

I threw away my copy of “You’ve Got Mail” and I haven’t watched it in two years.  I can still quote the movie.  I can still feel what Meg Ryan feels when she says to Tom Hanks, “I wanted it to be you.  I wanted it so bad”.  HAHAHAHA.

Give your heart to Jesus.  Give your feelings to Jesus.  Give your frustration to Jesus.  Even when you are married, you have got to put up your shield against the things that want to steal your heart.

Do I like Chick Flicks?  Yes.  Is there anything necessarily wrong with watching “You’ve Got Mail”?  No.  Is it a great movie?  Yes.

But when girls give energy to that which is not reality, not true, not pure, there will be draining-draining your heart, your patience, your joy, your strength.  We just have to be careful.  We have to be on guard.  This is a good life but it’s never going to be “Days of Our Lives”.  Thank God.

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