The following are some lyrics of songs that you can currently hear on the radio:

One Way by Blondie

“One way,or another, I’m gonna find ya;
I’m gonna get ya get ya get ya get ya!
One way, or another, I’m gonna win ya;
I’m gonna get ya get ya get ya get ya!
One way, or another, I’m gonna see ya;
I’m gonna meet ya meet ya meet ya meet ya!
One day, maybe next week,
I’m gonna meet ya, I’m gonna meet ya, I’ll meet ya!

{Bridge #1
I will drive past your house,
And if the lights are all down,
I’ll see who’s around…

One way, or another, I’m gonna find ya;
I’m gonna get ya get ya get ya get ya!
One way, or another, I’m gonna win ya;
I’ll get ya! I’ll get ya!
One way, or another, I’m gonna see ya;
I’m gonna meet ya meet ya meet ya meet ya!
One day, maybe next week, I’m gonna meet ya;
I’ll meet ya! Ahhh…

{Bridge #2
And if the lights are all out,
I’ll follow your bus downtown,
See who’s hangin’ ’round!

One way, or another, I’m gonna lose ya;
I’m gonna give you the slip!
A slip of the hip, or another;
I’m gonna lose ya, I’m gonna trick ya!
I’ll trick ya!

One way, or another, I’m gonna lose ya;
I’m gonna trick ya trick ya trick ya trick ya!
One way, or another, I’m gonna lose ya;
I’m gonna give you the slip!

I walked down the hall,
Stand over by the wall,
Where I can see it all,
Find out who ya call!
Lead you to the supermarket checkout,
See specials on rack
Then get lost in the crowd!

One way, or another, I’m gonna get ya;
I’ll get ya, I’ll get ya get ya get ya get ya!
One way, or another, I’m gonna get ya;
I’ll get ya, I’ll get ya get ya get ya get ya!
One way, or another, I’m gonna get ya;
I’ll get ya, I’ll get ya get ya get ya get ya!
One way, or another, I’m gonna get ya;
I’ll get ya, I’ll get ya get ya get ya get ya!
One way, or another, I’m gonna get ya;
I’ll get ya, I’ll get ya get ya get ya get ya!

You Belong to Me by Taylor Swift:

But she wears short skirts, I wear t-shirts
She’s cheer captain and I’m on the bleachers
Dreaming bout the day when you’ll wake up and find
That what you’re lookin for has been here the whole time

If you could see that I’m the one who understands you
Been here all along so why can’t you see?
You belong with me
You belong with me

Walkin the streets with you in your worn out jeans
I cant help thinking this is how it ought to be
Laughing on the park bench thinkin to myself
Hey isnt this easy?

And you’ve got a smile that could light up this whole town
I havent seen it in awhile, since she brought you down
You say you find I know you better than that
Hey, Whatcha doing with a girl like that?

Come Back To Me by David Cook:

You say you gotta go and find yourself
You say that you’re becoming someone else
Don’t recognize the face in the mirror
Looking back at you

You say you’re leavin
As you look away
I know theres really nothin left to say
Just know i’m here
Whenever you need me
I’ll wait for you

So i’ll let you go
I’ll set you free
And when you see what you need to see
When you find you come back to me

Take your time i wont go anywhere
Picture you with the wind in your hair
I’ll keep your things right where you left them
I’ll be here for you

Now, I am sure you can see the difference between the girl songs and the guy song.  Two are scary and one is not.  Obviously, I picked songs that would specifically help me make a point but come on.  “One way or another, I am gonna gitcha”- uhhh, are we stalkers, manipulators, crazies? If he doesn’t like you, get over it.  Move on.  Don’t chase him around trying to make him notice you.  Girlfriend, he noticed you alright and that’s why he is running.

I have had my moments where there is a guy that I really like and he doesn’t like me at all and it is frustrating. But it stops at “frustrating” and does not bloom into crazy, weird, obsessive freakdom.

We are women. We are not desperate.  Men are not meat. They are men.  Single women don’t pounce on the first hot guy to walk in the door who they don’t know.  We are elegant, mature, and wise.

We watch and we wait.  We wait because we know our value.  If Mr. Hotness can’t recognize hotness when he sees it, then Mr. Hotness needs to keep steppin’.  If he doesn’t know a good woman when he sees one, then he’s not the one for us.  You are going to marry a smart man.  He is obviously not smart and thus, not your man.

If you don’t get married until you are 50 years old, it’s okay. You need to come to terms with that.  If you can’t trust God to bring you into the land he wants to bring you into, then you will spend 40 years in the desert, miserable, boring, unmotivated, and stagnant in your growth.  You will waste your life.

With or without a man, I am going to live my life.  Even if I got married tomorrow, guess what?  I am still gonna live my life.  If he wants to watch football on Sunday and I am dying to go hiking, guess what?  I could actually go hiking by myself!  Unless of course, we make a compromise and go together after the game.  My point is this:  Your life should never by put on hold while you live your current season and dream about the next.

Don’t waste time driving by his house, memorizing his license plate, phone number, and schedule.  That’s weird.  We are not weird.

BIG GENERALIZATION that could be true: Guys and girls show love differently.  Females show their love by “being there” all the time for whoever and males show love by giving space to someone to do what they need to do.   The lines get fuzzy when the girl is chasing the guy because she wants to be “with” him and the guy just wants to give a girl or himself room to think .  No, the guy can pursue the girl and the girl can respond appropriately.  And if the girl doesn’t like the guy, then she has the responsibility to let the guy know “Enough is enough.  Thank you but I am not interested.” and that’s it!  He moves on and she moves on and everyone breathes in and out.

🙂 And that’s all I have to say today.

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