It’s been my experience that whenever the topic of “eHarmony” comes up, it’s always in quiet, whispering, embarrassed tones.  Last week, a friend and I were in two separate weddings as bridesmaids.  Same day.  Both couples:  Met on eHarmony.

Well, this blog is called “Real Rhonda” for a reason and so I am gonna be real with you 🙂

Today, I signed up for eHarmony.  3 months at $45/month.  Money back guaranteed if you don’t get married (Just Kidding).

Obviously I don’t care if the world knows this because I am writing a post about it in the attempt to encourage others to…to change their “traffic patterns”.

I think we all fall into ruts at times.  I recently read the book, “Finding a Date Worth Keeping” by someone.  It had some interesting points that I found highly interesting.  One of the points:  Unless you are planning on marrying the FedEx man or a Jehovah’s witness, you can’t stay at home and expect to meet people/date/get married.  Storks bring babies, not husbands.

Let me clarify one thing:  I love my church, my group of friends, and am meeting new people every month through my job, my church, mutual friends, etc.  I don’t want to meet a guy in a bar so I don’t go to bars to meet people.  Drunk people, low lights, screaming over the music is not my idea of a great way to meet people but hey, some people enjoy that atmosphere so whatever. However, I tend to hang out with the same people every week.  I love these people and that is why we hang out.  I can’t tell you enough how much I love and enjoy these people.  They are amazing but as for dating (And I have gone out with a few;), it’s just not happening at the moment.  I am not blaming anyone but myself.  If I get to the end of my life and am not married, I take full responsibility, for there are plenty of eligible single men and Seattle actually has tons.  I stand at sidewalk corners, waiting to cross the street with 9 people also waiting, and they are all men.  My bus has equal proportions of men to women-at times the bus is 75% men (Yes, I have counted).  Now, many of these are married, dating, elderly, or way too young but nonetheless, my point-it’s my own issue if I don’t get married.  Don’t they say, “It’s a man’s world”?  There are plenty of men.  Everywhere.

I have a co-worker who is always saying things like, “Rhonda, I can’t believe you aren’t married.”  She doesn’t know that this doesn’t help but she’s been married forever so she’s forgotten the “unhelpful list of things to say to singles”. Except for one unnamed weirdo I went out with awhile back (Who will never contact me again because I let him know what I thought of him and doesn’t ever read my blog because he doesn’t know it exists and I wouldn’t care if he did know because he was a disgrace to everything “male”), I have only had quite good experiences in dating men (And “Beat It” by M.J. just came on my iPod so I am singing Beat it! at the moment).

EHarmony?  Why not.  One more avenue to communicate and get to know people.  I am in no rush.  If my biological clock stops ticking, well, A. I believe in a God who gives 90 year old women babies and B. I believe in adoption.  🙂

Am I expecting to meet a man I want to spend the rest of my life with on eHarmony?  Not really.  I’m doing it for fun and I have 7 matches already! (One of whom I was in a wedding with a long time ago-small world-don’t ask who it is because I will never tell you).

(Current song playing:  “I’m starting with the man in the mirror, I’m asking him to make a change…” Michael Jackson.)

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