It’s been my experience that whenever the topic of “eHarmony” comes up, it’s always in quiet, whispering, embarrassed tones. Last week, a friend and I were in two separate weddings as bridesmaids. Same day. Both couples: Met on eHarmony.
Well, this blog is called “Real Rhonda” for a reason and so I am gonna be real with you 🙂
Today, I signed up for eHarmony. 3 months at $45/month. Money back guaranteed if you don’t get married (Just Kidding).
Obviously I don’t care if the world knows this because I am writing a post about it in the attempt to encourage others to…to change their “traffic patterns”.
I think we all fall into ruts at times. I recently read the book, “Finding a Date Worth Keeping” by someone. It had some interesting points that I found highly interesting. One of the points: Unless you are planning on marrying the FedEx man or a Jehovah’s witness, you can’t stay at home and expect to meet people/date/get married. Storks bring babies, not husbands.
Let me clarify one thing: I love my church, my group of friends, and am meeting new people every month through my job, my church, mutual friends, etc. I don’t want to meet a guy in a bar so I don’t go to bars to meet people. Drunk people, low lights, screaming over the music is not my idea of a great way to meet people but hey, some people enjoy that atmosphere so whatever. However, I tend to hang out with the same people every week. I love these people and that is why we hang out. I can’t tell you enough how much I love and enjoy these people. They are amazing but as for dating (And I have gone out with a few;), it’s just not happening at the moment. I am not blaming anyone but myself. If I get to the end of my life and am not married, I take full responsibility, for there are plenty of eligible single men and Seattle actually has tons. I stand at sidewalk corners, waiting to cross the street with 9 people also waiting, and they are all men. My bus has equal proportions of men to women-at times the bus is 75% men (Yes, I have counted). Now, many of these are married, dating, elderly, or way too young but nonetheless, my point-it’s my own issue if I don’t get married. Don’t they say, “It’s a man’s world”? There are plenty of men. Everywhere.
I have a co-worker who is always saying things like, “Rhonda, I can’t believe you aren’t married.” She doesn’t know that this doesn’t help but she’s been married forever so she’s forgotten the “unhelpful list of things to say to singles”. Except for one unnamed weirdo I went out with awhile back (Who will never contact me again because I let him know what I thought of him and doesn’t ever read my blog because he doesn’t know it exists and I wouldn’t care if he did know because he was a disgrace to everything “male”), I have only had quite good experiences in dating men (And “Beat It” by M.J. just came on my iPod so I am singing Beat it! at the moment).
EHarmony? Why not. One more avenue to communicate and get to know people. I am in no rush. If my biological clock stops ticking, well, A. I believe in a God who gives 90 year old women babies and B. I believe in adoption. 🙂
Am I expecting to meet a man I want to spend the rest of my life with on eHarmony? Not really. I’m doing it for fun and I have 7 matches already! (One of whom I was in a wedding with a long time ago-small world-don’t ask who it is because I will never tell you).
(Current song playing: “I’m starting with the man in the mirror, I’m asking him to make a change…” Michael Jackson.)
November 14, 2010 at 7:26 pm
Hi Rhonda,
I enjoyed your perspective! I’m glad you’ve decided to get out of a rut by joining eHarmony. I think it’s a really good attitude to just enjoy it. At the same time, I hope it encourages you that on average, 542 people a day do get married through using eHarmony. I do hope you find “the One” if that is what you are looking for ultimately. Since you’re new on the site, here’s an article to help you get oriented (written by my colleague a while ago): http://advice.eharmony.com/article/online-dating-top-5-tips-for-using-eharmony.html. I hope you get something out of it, and if you have any questions, feel free to follow me on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/eharmony_jack. – Jack
November 15, 2010 at 10:17 am
Yay! Good for you! I remember when I was in my 30’s & still unmarried I read something also that told me that it was highly unliking anyone was going to come knocking on my door holding a sign from God saying “I’m the one”. So I made it a point to go out everyday & do something, somewhere because I also did not do the bar scene, etc. I ended up marrying someone I met thru the mail thru a Christian correspondence dating service. It was over 18 years ago so internet dating was not available. Just go into it with your eyes wide open & be honest. If it’s meant to be it will happen. Best wishes! Please keep your fans posted. 🙂
December 10, 2010 at 2:50 pm
You go girl! I’ve known some couples you met on eHarmony and they’re still married up to now. Oh and I met Nick online. :-p